today I did not do much. Went to a few Yard Sales. Got a magazine rack for my room. Its real small so I can put it on the side of my bed. Also got the DVD, Lord of the Rings for
Finn. I don't think he has it yet. Than I came and read, The Last Lecture. It made me sad. The guy is 47 and dying. He really wrote the book for his three little kids. When Wes died on one ever told the patients they were dying. We only talked together about it for a very short time. I think he would have told his children the same type of things Pausch tells his. Oh well....
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Betty, I would think it would have been difficult for you to read. What I remember of Wes....I too think he would have done it a similar way.
When my father died we never mentioned it to him that he was dying...1973. Yet when my dear friend Theresa died in 2005 we had many wonderful, intimate times of sharing. It was so much better that way, but times were different.
I just read an excerpt of that, also. He writes very powerfully. As for it being better to discuss one's probable death with a loved one, I think it's essential for survivors to follow the dying person's lead. Regardless of the current conventional wisdom, I'm not convinced it's the better way unless he or she wants it to be.
It goes without saying you'd follow the dying person's lead. However, it's important to 'listen' for what they are trying to say. Hospice nurses are trained to do this.
I remember a nun walking into a pt's room one time and blurting out .."S knows he's dying and we will help him thru it". I thought that was just awful. S was totally alert at the time.
My friend Theresa knew the end was near and she was easy to talk to.
It goes without saying you'd follow the dying person's lead. However, it's important to 'listen' for what they are trying to say. Hospice nurses are trained to do this.
I remember a nun walking into a pt's room one time and blurting out .."S knows he's dying and we will help him thru it". I thought that was just awful. S was totally alert at the time.
My friend Theresa knew the end was near and she was easy to talk to.
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